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there are a few things I keep in mind and do as a way of prioritizing the experience of the play partner (I’ll use this term as a catch all phrase for all types of persons who pay for sessions to describe submissives, bottoms, kinksters and fetishists)

Note: Since this is an overall description for different types of persons who pay for my time it goes without saying that the value I place on my level of professionalism during interactions os of great significance. However, when it comes to my submissives and submissives in general, there are some intricacies that will be described in a future article. The reason for this is due to the depth of connection that is demonstrated towards me through things like servitude and willingness to please as well as me to them through leadership and responsibility during play. Considering that this might also include more advanced kinks which would require more communication before and after sessions as well as a stronger interest in the emotional and physical well being of submissives under my care that kinksters, bottoms and fetish play partners simply would not need or require.

With that being said, this article is intended to cover principals and methods of conduct that would be applicable to a multitude of types of play partners as I value them, their safety and quality of experience just as much.

Demonstrating Morally Sound Judgement with D/S & Kinky Play-Partners

Treating Play Partners based on their Role 

Treating play partners based on their role would include playing with the understanding that the expectations I have for subs would not be the same as for bottoms, kinksters or fetishists.

Subs understand and desire a D/s relationship whereas others may or may not. More importantly, other play partners aren’t seeking fulfillment through submission with kink and fetish play included.

I learn this through getting to vet new contacts by asking them certain questions and/or being an attentive listener to the requests made by such play partners. It also requires clear and direct communication in order to be certain that I’m not misleading potential play partners into interactions with me that would not be suitable to what they are seeking. 

Although there is a distinct difference between them they all go through this process of Q&A to discern the following before a session begins.

-Their Role -Their Interests -The Motive behind these interests -Hard limits (if applicable) 

-Safety protocols (if applicable) -Expectations of the Femdom they would ideally like to play w/

-Fantasies/Desires -Emotions they’d like to feel during a session

These things help to ensure the scene is led in an authentic way and hits all the marks for a well constructed scene that both of us can enjoy.

If I find that a person isn’t interested in providing substantial answers to these questions that usually means they are in need of more time to consider these things and return when they are ready. Or, they are solely seeking attention and have no desire to actually session.

Being Knowledgeable & Sharing that which I have Learned

This creates a better  D/s, kink/BDSM scene for everyone and shows that although I value my time and expect others to as well. I take time to educate others on what I know when asked and without shaming or being frustrated if they do not end up having a session.

This is important because I want people to feel comfortable not knowing and at ease asking me. In the event that I also don;t know something, I’d often suggest sites where the information could be found or people who I know could provide additional information. This attitude is reciprocal and I thoroughly enjoy learning from them as well.

Respecting Boundaries and Limitations

This builds upon the mutual respect as human beings who are consenting to play in a  way that could at times bring out vulnerabilities. Being vulnerable by sharing things we may not  share with others in our day to day life builds for a connection.

Yet, if an overinflated sense of self get prioritized above the limitations of my players then I’m no longer being a reliable trustworthy dominant and that could lead to harm towards the establish connection and to the individual. In some cases, their attitude towards their actual kinks could be diminished or shamed whether intentional or unintentional further degrading the perception one could have towards femdoms, their kink or fetish and overall, the BDSM community.

Discouraging players from pursuing the exploration they’ve begun (for novices) and dissolving the trust they may have placed in me could be the result of being inconsiderate of boundaries and limitations. Similarly, I’d expect for them to understand and respect mine as well. S-types, bottoms and the like are NOT the only persons with boundaries worthy of being respected and acknowledged.

Checking In

Checking in Before, during and after sessions, asking more questions and keeping a breast on changes that could happen with limits is how I’d go about this.

Determining when it’s not Ideal to Play

Refraining from play when I or the other player show signs of not being their usual self.

This could mean lots of things but mainly there is no expectation of play if they are visibly not in a place to follow instruction, listen, actively focus their attention on whatever we are going to do.

This is usually for regulars who may not benefit from a session as much as they could from a little conversation and general interaction. Also, for more intense types of play like Impact, CEI, CBT & Humiliation, Even though they could always log off or end the session abruptly, there is no indication by doing so that they aren’t further deterred by assuming play will improve a poor disposition or leave them feeling unfulfilled by the session.

This could make things worse without knowing if I haven’t taken time to determine how they are in the first place and when it is appropriate to just talk instead of session with a person who could be going through something or be in a poor mutual state do to the type of play that could affect them differently than if in their usual state of being.

Fair & Right Communication

This means not taking advantage be it financially or otherwise. I offer content and sessions at various price points for this reason. This is a way of demonstrating awareness of my responsibility to ensure a safe, enjoyable and quality experience. The quality of an experience shouldn’t be diminished by worries of whether the quality or expense for a session or piece of content was not as expected. 

Communicating when I know I’m not able to uphold these previously stated values instead of forcing a session at another’s request. 

Apologizing and taking accountability if I fail to do any of the aforementioned at any point.

These are ideals that have helped me to make certain that the person(s) I interact with can rest assured that I value them, the time we share, their safety, and decision to session with me.

Ideally, this would further endear them to me and solidify the trust that has taken time and communication to build.